Valerie Bertinelli was the recipient of some as*holery when someone commented on one of posts, suggesting that she needed to lose weight. Valerie, who has been open about her struggles with her weight, responded with a tearful and frustrated video. Valerie told the commenter that their comment wasn’t f*cking helpful. Valerie received love and support from her son Wolfgang and other celebrities, like Michelle Branch and Demi Lovato, after posting the video. Below are few more highlights from Entertainment Tonight:
“Someone…decided to point out that I need to lose weight,” she said, tearing up. “…You’re not being helpful.”
“When you see somebody who has put some weight on, my first thought is that person is obviously going through some things, because if I could lose the weight and keep it off, I would,” she continued. “But since I haven’t been successful with that my whole entire life, at 61 I’m still dealing with [it]. You think I’m not tired of it, lady?”
Bertinelli has had a tough year, as her ex-husband, Eddie Van Halen, died last October. “Where’s the compassion?” she asked her Instagram followers. “You think a stupid little comment like ‘you need to lose weight,’ not f**king helpful.”
The actress was also very candid about her emotions in the caption for her video. “Aren’t we tired of body shaming women yet?! smh,” she wrote. “I was going to delete my stories because it’s a little embarrassing and scary to be so vulnerable. But then I realized it was hitting a ‘good’ nerve with so many of you who were so sweet to dm and share your same vulnerability and struggles. We all could use a little more kindness and patience and grace, because we just never know what someone else is going through. So here it is. Not deleting. Owning it. ♥️ #compassion”
Bertinelli’s son, Wolfgang Van Halen, commented on his mother’s vulnerable message, writing, “You’re perfect the way you are, Ma. I love you ❤️ (also for no particular reason, what was that f**ker’s @ so I can harass them with memes?)”
Watching this video of Valerie hurt. It hit home. People are unhappy and cruel. I have never understood the need to make such personal attacks on people, especially women, about their weight or age. It is unnecessary in a public forum. I really believe that tech companies need to create some sort of buffer or filter so that this sort of toxic behavior is no longer acceptable. My heart goes out to Valerie because I grew up watching her on TV and I know that she has struggled with her body image for quite some time. And it is easy for us to say that Valerie shouldn’t read the comments but that is honestly easier said than done. Anyways, I hope Valerie is surrounded by support and love and I am here for her son hunting down the troll and spamming them with memes.
Valerie posted this video thanking people for their kindness.
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